Lately I’ve noticed that all of the people in my life are freaking out about something. Every. Single. Person. From relationship problems to moving house. From having nothing to watch on Netflix to how bad it smells when their cat does a number two in their small apartment. You know, the usual life stuff.
Everyone is fighting their own battles and when you’re close to people their battles can become yours too. That’s just part of existing with people. It’s part of being a good friend and an adult. It’s showing empathy and compassion and that’s how you create meaningful relationships *pats self on back*.
It’s all well and good to “not surround yourself with negative people” but then you might find yourself all on your lonesome. Everyone has a little something (or a big something) to complain about and that is okay. But how can we draw a line? We’ve got our own shit to deal with, right?
Empaths might struggle with this one. Got unreasonably upset because of how that woman got scammed on A Current Affair? Same. So how the flippin’ heck are we meant to go through our best friends break up and still show up for work the next day? Like, damn.
I like to look at it this way; at least you’re not a shell of a human. At least you care. And caring is living. If we’re not feeling anything then we’re just existing. I tend to set my heart on things (like a job, for example). I can’t help it. I invest all of my hopes into something, so when the rejection hits it hits hard. But that being said, the celebrations are off the hook.
Sure, the hard times might really, really hurt. But the good times are so, so fab. Life is full of ups and downs and the ups make the downs worth it especially when you’re going through them with other people.
What’s the first thing you want to do when you experience a win or a lose? You want to tell someone else. You want to share the experience. Who do you want to tell? The people you care about. So allow other people to do the same with you and take it as a complement that they want to share their journey with you.
Peace starts with empathy. If everyone had the ability to put themselves in another person’s shoes then the world would be a much kinder place. So maybe you’re just more evolved. Like a super human alien.
Pride yourself on your empathy and encourage it in others. It’s not a burden.